True Friendship is not only measured by what a person says or does in your presence or the truth they tell when you’re present.
The true measure of a friendship happens when things are said about you when you’re not around.
Your true friend morphs into a paid attorney, putting up a strong defense for you when someone comes for you and you’re not there to defend yourself. They also hold your secrets in confidence like attorney/client privilege.
A True Friend ❣️
How do you ever know your thinking or actions are off if no one ever tells you. Sometimes we think our learned and established behavior or thought patterns are wise and correct. Truth be told, we ALL need that someone who is unbiased and cares enough to challenge our possibly wrong thinking/behavior. Woe be it unto the man who is never challenged in that manner or never challenges those close to them. ~Iron Sharpens Iron~BHicks
I saw this photo from Shawn McKenzie and loved it. I wrote some encouraging words below it for women like this. I pray it blesses you. The revelation blessed me.
If you are this, understand that every man is not looking for this. Make sure you’re ok with that fact and remember to not take a step back waiting for someone who doesn’t understand the value of this, to catch up. They just may not be in to you, or ready for you, or just not checking for you. That’s ok. If there is only one for you that means don’t gaze into the eyes of every man in the multitude wondering if he is the one. It may sound cliche but fix your eyes on GOD. If you deal in Faith you know HE will not make you ashamed, HE knows what you need, want and how to give it to you. HE is your Father. Your greatest champion who knows and calls you by name. Speak your name and who you are and what GOD has Himself said about you. It will help you to remember you’re worthy. As for me, my name is Bridgette. Though I had strayed I am called and chosen. I am waiting, I am patient, I am grateful and I Am LOVE.
Ich Liebe Dich Alle ❤️
~Bridgette Hicks 2017
People on the outside may jest about your small beginnings. They may whisper about your place in the hood, your beat up car, you having less education, your missed opportunities, your failures. Lets recognize that these things are a part of life. Its all part and parcel to having your dreams come true. Step by step and even your missteps are all apart of GODS plan to prepare you. Prepare you for your place in the upscale neighborhood, the car of your dreams, your graduation, your open doors and your successes. Please don’t focus on the things or activities mentioned. They were used to make a point. Focus on the fact that your small beginnings, your story, your past, are all for HIS Glory. ~Humility Outside the Window Looking In
Copyright ©2017 Bridgette Hicks All rights reserved
Whose slave are you?
Now I know the ways in which we normally consider the word slave, but let’s take it a step further. Consider slavery in terms of your mental, your spiritual life. Who or what consumes your thought life? Whose opinion or reactions dictate how you govern yourself? Who or what is subconsciously controlling you? Who do you think about more than GOD? Whose opinions matter to you more than GOD?
The answers to these questions will allow you to determine who your slave master or masters are. Here are a few examples:
- It’s the job that you hate that takes you away from the people you love, and is not utilizing your full potential or gifts, while subtly making you believe you’re not good enough for anyone else to hire you.
- It’s the person you had intercourse with last night that’s not your spouse, and does not view you as marriage material, yet you strongly desire to sleep with them again and an even more serious relationship.
- It’s the act of going to church, yes church, out of habit with no desire to worship and no desire to be fed, nor to be changed by the Word being brought forth.
- Its the obvious addictions: like gambling, sex, shopping, drugs, food, alcohol, porn, people, etc.
- It’s the need for attention, even negative attention.
- It’s need to stir up drama and create discourse.
- It’s gossip and slander
- It’s the need to be validated
- It’s the need to assimilate
- It’s fear, anxiety and non clinical depression
- It’s a lack of Faith
These are all things that gain us no real benefit. Now of course one could dispute the benefits, especially from the things that bring immediate gratification. If we are honest, after the immediate gratification we are still left empty, looking for the next opportunity to experience fleeting pleasure with no real substance. A slave in the sense that you work real hard, depleting all you have, or your most valuable resources: time, money, dignity, self respect, virtue, confidence, strength, body, health, etc, expending all your energy with no real, lasting payout. Nothing of real intrinsic value to take away from your labor. No spiritual value. Nothing that’s pleasure to GOD. You’re a slave….
One could go on and on, but the fact is we are all in bondage to something. Some of us know, acknowledge, seek change and pray for deliverance. Others don’t recognize, deny, make excuses, are just not ready for change and simply don’t want to involve GOD.
Truth be told GOD is our only way out from the vicious slave mentality. Stop walking around like zombies believing you’re free. Make self introspection habitual, make Prayer habitual, make positive growth and change habitual.
Some depend on the actions and responses of others to change. This means you become a slave to another persons correction for you to be better. The true mark of valuing ones self and the ultimate mark of greatness comes when you become the Master of yourself, looking inward and upward for the change. Change that you can attribute, not to man, but directly to GOD.
A slave no more….
Ich Liebe Dich Alle! ❤️
©2015 Bridgette Hicks
This is the last day of my last quarter of school for 2015. January can take its time…my mind will enjoy the rest.
I think back on my graduation this year and my heart leaps. Those whom know me know that I’ve wanted and worked towards that moment and the next for a long time. Before I became pregnant as a teen a college degree was already my dream. A delay is not a denial in my world…Thank GOD. If I were born at the time I would’ve been Langston Hughes’s muse, when he spoke of a Dream Deferred.
Thank You GOD for making dreams come true. I also thank you for the revelation of things that are yet to come. I’ve learned not to despise small beginnings. I’ve learned that what I see, hear and go through don’t change my destiny…if I believe in it. I’ve learned to be Grateful. I’ve learned to share my Grateful Heart, Faith, Love, Joy and Hope with others. I’ve also learned that even though it may seem to some that I walk alone, in real life I’m never alone. YOU always walk alongside me. What it looks like in the natural is temporary as I am fully Persuaded.
Friend, this is my DUE Season….and I pray it’s your Due Season too. Let’s Praise HIM for what’s to come even before it arrives. And Thank HIM for what HE’s already done. GOD, THANK YOU❤️
Ich Liebe Dich Alle ❤️
©2015 Bridgette Hicks
One thing is for certain and I’m learning this to be true: one can’t pray for understanding while fighting to be understood. The bible says: Fools have no interest in understanding; they only want to air their own opinions. (Proverbs 18:2 NLT)
Sometimes one must know when to be quiet, listen and gain understanding. Know when ones opinion doesn’t matter. This is what you should do if the fool in question is you.
©2014 Bridgette Hicks
Imagine who you would be if life’s situations hadn’t succeeded in bringing you to your knees and bowing to the King. You would still be negatively affecting and infecting people, places and things with the stain of your unwillingness to notice the things you needed to change.
So right now! I mean it…right now Thank GOD for making your high places low…and causing you to grow in the things of HIM.
In HIM you will Win. Let HIM continue the work HES begun in you.
~Humbled by THE BEST
©2014 Bridgette Hicks
And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns. (Philippians 1:6 NLT)